Lovemaking is one of the important interactions that husbands and wives are expected to have together. It’s a form of body contact that expresses love, affection and acceptance. So, when your wife is not interested in having this interaction with you, when she’s not interested in getting intimate with you, you should know there’s a problem. It might be that she’s not in the mood or maybe you’ve done something that she doesn’t like, or it might even be that she’s just having a bad day and she’s stressed out.
Below are four things to do when your wife is not interested in lovemaking;
1. Communicate with her softly
This is the easiest way to solve any disagreement or approach any issue, for you to know what to do, you need to have an idea of what’s happening, and that’s what you’ll get when you communicate with her. Don’t talk to her harshly because you think she’s not supposed to be uninterested, don’t allow your urges to affect your logic.
Have a conversation with her, ask her what the problem is, listen to her as much as possible, without sounding condescending.
2. Try to understand her perspective
This is another thing you will need to do when your wife is not interested in lovemaking, and you’ve already had a conversation with her. You need to try to understand why she’s not interested in getting intimate with you, and you need to show this understanding by being empathic. If she’s not in the mood, don’t force her, if she’s having a bad day, cheer her up and encourage her, you can even do this by preparing her favourite meal.
3. Watch a movie with her
When your wife is not interested in lovemaking, you need to calm the situation down, and one of the easiest ways to do this, is by watching a movie with her, make sure the movie is romantic enough to help you and your wife relax and have a good time. This is a way of showing her that you enjoy her company irrespective of her interest in lovemaking.
4. Work out an action plan
Watching a movie with her doesn’t mean you’ve solved the problem, you still need to work out an action plan together, to completely handle the situation. This could be about the things you both need to do to help her get in the mood, or the things you an do in the future to avoid a situation like that